Am I Even Good at This? The Struggles We Don’t Talk About

We’ve all had those moments where self-doubt creeps in, leaving us questioning our abilities. Whether we’re navigating the ups and downs of business ownership, trying to balance the roles of parent, partner, or friend, there are times when we feel inadequate. Maybe it’s a deal that slips away at the last minute, a project that falls flat, a loved one who distances themselves, or just the general feeling that no matter how hard we try, nothing seems to go right.

For me, these moments were often accompanied by a quiet but persistent question: Am I really good at this?

When I first started my business, I had no idea just how challenging it would be. I expected the late nights, the hustle, the long hours, but no one prepared me for the emotional toll. The client who suddenly pulled out. The team member who left at a critical moment. The week where progress seemed impossible. I was left wondering if I was truly capable of handling it all. The truth is, we often don’t talk about these struggles. Instead, we push through, trying to maintain the appearance of having it all under control. But deep down, there’s often a feeling of uncertainty that we try to ignore.

But here’s something I’ve learned over the years: We’re not just building a business, career, or relationship. We’re building the version of ourselves who can handle everything that comes with it. The struggles, the setbacks, the moments of doubt—they are part of the process of growing and becoming the person who can navigate these challenges with resilience.

When things go wrong, it’s easy to feel like a failure. But over time, I’ve realized that the real test isn’t about avoiding failure—it’s about learning how to keep going when everything feels uncertain. Whether it’s business or life in general, it’s not about having all the answers. It’s about showing up even when you don’t feel like it, pushing forward when the plan falls apart, and adapting when things don’t go as expected.

In moments of doubt, I remind myself that it’s okay not to have everything figured out. What matters most is the willingness to stay in the game, to keep learning, growing, and evolving, even when it feels like progress is slow. Life, like business, is about showing up and being present, even on the hardest days.

So, the next time you’re feeling inadequate, know this: you’re not alone. We all face it. But it’s the ones who keep showing up, who keep pushing through despite the setbacks, who eventually turn their doubts into undeniable success.