Quote for the week
“Women are the real architects of society.” – Harriet Beecher Stowe
The Fulcrum of Respect: Women, Stand Up for Your Worth
Respect is the foundation of every meaningful relationship, and as women, it is our right—and responsibility—to demand it, both at home and in the broader world. Too often, I have seen women treated like doormats, their contributions and sacrifices dismissed or belittled. This behavior doesn’t just erode a woman’s self-worth; it sets a dangerous precedent for the next generation.
In my personal and professional life, one thing is non-negotiable: respect. Whether at home, in my community, or business, I make it clear that I will not tolerate being treated as less than I am. Respect is a two-way street, and it starts at home.
I’ve seen situations where children speak rudely to their parents, and it breaks my heart even more when I see a spouse or family member put someone down in public. I’ve made it a point to teach my kids that respect isn’t optional. When they slip up—and yes, all kids do—I quickly remind them that respect must come first.
But it’s not just about children; husbands, parents, and extended family play a crucial role in setting the tone for how women are treated. What we sow, we reap. If a culture of respect is nurtured within the family, it creates a ripple effect, shaping how children grow up to treat others, particularly women.
A Story of Change
While in Bahrain in 1994, I tutored a young, rebellious student named Ahmed. He came from a large family and was deeply resistant to education. Over time, I discovered that his behavior stemmed from feeling neglected in a household that had little time for him.
One day, Ahmed told me something that left me deeply hurt—he claimed that his home was “cursed” because it had more women than men. His words reflected a deep-seated bias that devalued women.
Instead of reacting in anger, I took the time to explain to Ahmed the pivotal role women play in a family. I shared examples of successful women who had transformed the lives of those around them. To my surprise, Ahmed took these lessons to heart. A week later, his sister called me in tears, sharing how Ahmed had apologized to her and vowed to treat all women with respect.
This moment reinforced my belief in the power of standing up for ourselves and educating others about the respect we deserve.
Women Are the Fulcrum of Any Family
Ladies, you are the fulcrum—the pivotal point around which your family, relationships, and even communities balance. When you allow yourself to be treated as less, you diminish not only your value but also the standards for others. Standing up for your worth isn’t just about demanding respect; it’s about setting a precedent for your children and those around you.
How to Stand Up for Yourself
- Set Boundaries Early – Make it clear what behavior is acceptable and what isn’t. Respect starts with communication.
- Lead by Example – Treat others with respect, even when they falter. Your actions will speak louder than words.
- Address Disrespect Immediately – Don’t let hurtful behavior slide, whether it’s from a child, spouse, or friend. Speak up with confidence.
- Teach the Next Generation – Show your children what respect looks like by demonstrating it within your family and demanding it in return.
- Celebrate Your Worth – Recognize your value and don’t let anyone make you feel small. Confidence is contagious.
Final Thoughts
There’s nothing more disheartening than seeing someone being put down in public, especially by their own family. We must change this narrative by standing tall, speaking up, and nurturing a culture of mutual respect.
Respect begins with us. When we demand it, we teach others to value us—not just for what we do, but for who we are. Let’s remember: women are not doormats. We are the foundation, the strength, and the heart of our families and communities. Let’s act like it.